So much of pregnancy, giving birth, being postpartum, and navigating motherhood is shrouded in overly-rosy, airbrushed expectations that aren’t always reality. There is so much beauty and joy in having a child—but only talking about the good parts makes many women feel like they’re not doing something right, or are going through this process entirely alone. This Mother’s Day, we talked with our mothers about the realities—and misconceptions—of motherhood, and what they hope to see for the future